You will probably think what tale is it, how can it be? Sexual intercourse is not only physical contact of sex organs, but here there is one more important component, about which few people know. In order to relation between two people get a sexual context mutual sexual-erotic impulses are necessary. Otherwise ‘meeting of penis and vagina’ will look like the meeting of indifferent looks of casual passers-by.
Any relation is supposed to be constructed and maintained by mutual contribution, not necessarily active but passive receptive position is also contribution. The unconscious desire also leads to the sexual intercourse. ‘I didn’t want, it just happened this way’, this sense of regret is coming from unconscious actions for which the man is quite responsible. The erotic demonstration of ‘different delightful parts’ of the body, which is often the lack of an individual’s self-confidence and the means of overcoming it, is the most important premise in sexual intercourses. Attracting the man’s attention, the woman asserts herself, and the more desirable she is, the higher her self-rating is. At such moments the woman least of all thinks about the consequences of her provocative behavior. When the intimate moment comes the woman so much gets used to it that denying the man already seemed to be impossible (what she sincerely desires), and so the ‘meeting of penis and vagina’ has occurred. It’s like a trap because after it the woman’s self-esteem decreases, whereas by her behavior she unconsciously led to that ‘triumph’ which has had a converse result. But, however, I’ve gotten off the point a little, and so, virginity without hymen. How is it possible to have a sexual intercourse and meanwhile continue being virgin? I think you will agree that the most important factors of virginity are inviolability, inaccessibility, purity, joyfulness. It isn’t difficult to guess that none of the above-listed has any relation with hymen which is only the part of the connective tissue in entrance of vagina. The carrier of these components is neither the hymen nor the person with his/her character traits and system of values. The base of pleasure, purity and being inaccessible exists in each person, but not in the ready form. It is formed by the people who inherently work on themselves in order to be always joyful, pure, and desirable, till to be inaccessibly ‘great’. It’s a way of self-overcoming which helps people to get rid of fears, traps and becoming a prisoner of personality. Hymen is the individual’s strongest ‘tool’, against which s/he can struggle only with the help of stronger ‘tool’ – intellect or, saying in a professional language, awakening of self-consciousness. Biblical expression, ‘Be attentive’, is the most powerful way of getting off the weight of hymen. The expression from the famous animated cartoon, ‘Be attentive, the cat isn’t asleep’, is the best confirmation of what I’ve just said. Awake spirituality in yourself, and then presence or absence of hymen will not disturb you.
