Very often we can hear a wrong opinion that the sexual harmony between a woman and a man is their sexual compatibility with each other, like the key is appropriate to its lock. If their sexual life doesn’t bring a mutual satisfaction, it means that they are not compatible with each other physically. The sexual harmony appears to be something
given from above, something accomplished which either does exist or doesn’t, and will never be.
Some social phenomena derive from this point of view. A young man aspires to have a sexual intercourse with a girl in any way possible before marriage; for he wants to be sure that they are sexually compatible. He was threatened by the thought that after marriage he will confront ‘the fact’, and then it will be too late to change anything, and he will have to be satisfied with ‘a mediocre sex’. By changing his/her partner s/he expects more sexual satisfaction than the one s/he has with his/her present partner.
So, pursuing the desire of a sexual harmony, wishing to get it already in a ready form, people lose their years, change their partners, but everything remains the same/ ‘the carriage doesn’t move’.
Whereas the sexual compatibility is something that the couple achieves in itself. It isn’t given from above, it is like a seed which demands regular care in order to grow up and give fruits with the years of a mutual marital life. On this way the married couple faces difficulties and obstacles, including medical ones, the overcoming of which is the prerequisite of achieving the sexual harmony. The escape from such problems says about intrapersonal problems one have. Trying to escape from them, the person remains standing in the same point, which is quite far from the sexual harmony.
