People want to be loved and desirable. That’s why some of them do their best to be liked, to delight the others, to be awarded with complimentary words. These people fully depend on the others’ opinions, they are chained with them. They just want to be loved, not to be shared unfairly, not to be unanswered, not to be
devaluated, not to be in the shadow. They behave themselves similarly in bed. They want it when they are desired. They do their best in order to be desired next time. Instead of giving themselves to feelings, getting sexual pleasure, they play partners’ passionate parts; imitate sexual characters due to mass media by forgetting their own sexual ‘ego’.
If love is identified with sex, the situation will be more difficult as sex is only one of the manifestations of love. Men more easily differentiate love and sex from each other. Woman just looks for an evidence of love in sex in order to be sure that she is loved and desired. So, under intensive interpersonal relations women come into intimate relations with more difficulty than men who prefer to get a sexual pleasure again. Loss of own ‘ego’, merging of ego with a partner may seem to be manifestation of love, but actually it is a subconscious means of protection, going away from reality.The person, who lost him/herself, feels a great sexual difficulty since the intimate intercourse is a function of two people. Conscious self-sacrifice is another matter. As a superior form of manifestation of love, it is a way leading to a matrimonial harmony and a sexual consistency. Sexual consciousness which is a personality’s derivative is one of the conditions in a sexual intercourse, as partners manifest as Man and Woman in bed. Developing inner sexual opportunities, believing his/her own sexuality s/he can avoid from many forms of sexual disharmony, non-corresponding demands and many other sexual problems.
