Should a young couple take a sexological examination before marriage?
To our great gladness young people go to doctors before marriages. There are such couples who have no problem, but however they apply to doctors avoiding from further complications. It means that the tendency leads to the rise of knowledge level about the sexual life.
Of course, the examination before marriages is a right decision, as there are such problems which are easily diagnosed and treated before marriages. It also refers to somatic and chronic inflammatory processes, problems of infertility, examination of sperm. Easy, less difficult examination of women is useful as well. The aim is to find out the problems and to treat them so as the couple has a normal sexual intercourse in future. This consultation also includes information about manifestations of sexuality and psychohygiene of a sexual life. Such information very often prevents sexual dysfunctions.
How is the examination done?
Due to sexological examination we can figure out what sexual opportunities, expectations and feelings each of them has. Women have got some acceptable sexological frameworks about which men maybe won’t know without any examination, but in a little while they speak about it, and it can become the reason of collisions and conflicts. There also exists such an idea as ‘sexual constitution’ which refers to sexual activeness – low, middle, high. In order to have a strong and harmonious relation, it is very important that the specialist estimates sexual constitution, limits of sexuality, type of nervous system and personality.
Do serious problems often occur because men and women don’t speak with each other, don’t share with their feelings?
I’ll give an example from a sexologist’s practice. A couple, who had lived a sexual life for several years, but the woman had never had a sense of orgasm, applied to me. She always imitated orgasm, but in the course of time she was tired of lie and told her husband the truth. He thought that she had deceived him. In such cases it’s very difficult to help married couples, as sexual disorder has already taken root. Unfortunately, such problems may be the reason of divorce, as sexual function plays a regulating part in an intrapersonal relationship. If everything is fine on this ‘battlefront’ the family will be consolidated, and it will be easy for them to manage with domestic and life hardships. In order to avoid from the above-listed problems and hardships we should pay attention to sincere and open relations between the married couple. And calculating mechanisms have a negative influence on the marriage and family.
Contacts before marriages for further family relations.
There must be some period for the contacts before marriages that man and woman realize what viewpoint each of them has, how they think. However it mustn’t last for a long time as in this case the woman changes her understanding about the sexual life, she satisfies with erotic caresses. And in a marriage their expectation doesn’t correspond to reality, as intimacy doesn’t limit with erotic caresses and kisses. In future the married couple is afraid of having sexual intercourses which with some personal peculiarities become the reason of vaginismus. … to be continuing …
